Anyone who has dealt with a narcissist in a romantic relationship knows there are very specific anxieties that are used against you.
When in a relationship with a narcissist, trying to deal with a hover or a discard is the glue holding these specific anxieties together.
When being discarded, anxiety is felt all the way up to the “already knowing” of being discarded, being forced to wait for the bomb to drop.
Once discarded and utterly ignored by the narcissist, the anxiety is derived from a sense of complete lack of control, experiencing extreme helplessness and shame.
Upon the narcissist’s arrival via the hover, the anxiety is derived from knowing better in regards to playing along with the narcissist as if nothing is wrong or pretending that you are to blame for the silent treatment and discard.
The problem with these three unique anxieties is the inability to pin point how to successfully leave without your own mind turning against you.