Every word you utter to a narcissist will be used against you 99% of the time. Most people get to the point where they know that if they speak out of script, they will be verbally attacked.
Narcissists treat people like props in a movie. They are insane in the sense that they literally will punish their victims for speaking as if they are in reality.
So what is your role as a prop?
1. when asked how you are, never respond truthfully if you are not feeling mentally or physically well
2. When criticized, do not criticize back
3. never ask for an explanation regarding anything the narcissist does
4. do not ask for anything
5. do not hold expectations
6. do not attempt to hold the narcissist accountable
7. do not accuse or call out the narcissist on anything he does wrong which of course, includes all his lies, abuse, manipulation and cheating
8. do not contact him when he gives you the silent treatment
9. do not defend yourself against any criticism or accusations the narcissist makes
10. do not complain, ever
11. do not ask to be heard
12. do not ask to be validated
13. do not ask to be empathized with or supported in any way
14. be readily available at all times
15. do not have your own social or personal life
16. Never express your negative thoughts or emotions
17. Agree with everything he talks about
18. Always show excitement when seeing the narcissist
19. Do not speak or act in a jealous manner
20. Do not ask for an apology, ever
21. Accept the narcissist will be abscent every other holiday
22. Do not ask the narcissist about his past, his thoughts or emotions
23. Never question his achievements despite them all sounding false(they usually are)
24. accept all forms of abuse
25. accept you are to blame for all the abuse you experience by the narcissist
26. deny the narcissist of nothing
26. have money
27. look your best at all times
28. answer every call and text
29. never ignore him
30. accept you do not exist
31. never question or state you are in a movie or that you are aware that you are a scripted prop
The only options available at this point are:
1. no contact
2. speak from whats real and be abused for a long time
3. be a prop